I experienced my first major trauma at the age of 8, having lost my dad to a landmine accident. The impact of this trauma was instant, although at that age I didn’t really understand what was going on for me emotionally. What I didn’t know then, and can only share in retrospect, is that the pain from that trauma was too intense for me to process. I didn’t have the internal resources or anyone available to me who could support me in navigating my way through the emotional turmoil. My mom did her best but she had her own challenges to deal with… she had to suddenly find a way to provide for herself and her 4 sons having just lost her husband. There wasn’t much time available to explore everyone’s emotional well being. We were swept into survival mode.
This is when my mind came to my rescue. It took control at a time when my heart was overwhelmed by pain and grief. It found ways to distract me from the deep pain in my heart, out of loyalty to my well-being. My mind did an incredible job at helping me to survive.
Unbeknownst to me however, that same loyal servant to my well-being would turn into a cunning. debilitating saboteur keeping me trapped from all that my heart holds dear, including my dreams and my life purpose. Why? Not because it intended to do so. Quite the opposite. My mind thought it was still doing a great job of protecting me.
The truth is, the mind is predominantly reliant on and motivated by the information stored in our subconscious ‘filing system’. Every emotional wound we’ve received and belief we’ve formed since babyhood is stored there. The mind uses this information to determine who we are and how best to serve us based on that information. The issue is that we are no longer who we used to be. It’s like having a personal assistant, eager to please, but trained with an outdated training manual. To put it bluntly, our mind is never intentionally trying to sabotage us or keep us stuck. Our mind is trying to protect us and keep us safe, using whatever we believe about ourselves subconsciously as the only available reference to do so. If we believe subconsciously that we’re not good enough, or that we don’t have what it takes to succeed etc etc. our mind will do what it can to keep us from showing up fully in the world because it wants to protect us and keep us safe from rejection, abandonment and pain. We will procrastinate, create our own confusion, sabotage our best opportunities and more because our mind is trying to support an outdated version of ourselves. Our greatest saboteur is in fact trying to be our greatest supporter and protector.
Your mind can help you achieve anything!
With a powerhouse of a brain that can process up to 400 billion bits of information per second, your mind can help you achieve pretty much anything you want. It just needs to be guided and motivated by updated information about who you are, not by the old information stored in the subconscious. You survived. You’re stronger now. You’re more mature and wiser. You’re enough….. you always have been enough! And you do have what it takes to succeed. Its time to refresh your thinking and let your mind know that things have changed. You’re not who you used to be!
If you want to transform your mind back to a powerful ally and resource with your best interests at heart there are two things you must do. The quality of your life depends on it!
- Do the heart work – Your heart has its one intelligence and is in no way influenced by your past wounding and conditioning. It know who you really are, what you really want and what you came here to do.It connects you to your intuition, higher guidance, your creativity and your ability to manifest abundance and miracles. There is nothing more important for anyone on this planet than learning how to connect back to the heart. Your heart will give your mind the most enriching and rewarding assignments imaginable.
- Change your minds point of reference – Whenever you face a decision that feels right, yet is met with resistance or fear, inform your mind why its a good idea to proceed. Literally have a conversation with it. List all the benefits for your mind. When your voice of reason in the present moment overrides the outdated information stored in your subconscious, your mind starts to support your new choices. The resistance and fear subsides and your mind again becomes your most faithful ally. This is all it has ever wanted to be… It just needs to be guided.
When your heart and mind begin to work together in balanced harmony, you will be in your true power, you will be in joyful, abundant flow, and you will be unstoppable!
Mitakuye-Oyasin (all my relations)
Wild at Heart